Longing and Regret

4 months without alcohol. 4 months without a hangover. 4 months without all the mental bullshit that goes with the shiny package of addiction.  The first two months were tough. Not so much because of cravings but I just felt blah all the time. Crazy irritable ready to blow my top at the slightest thing. Thank goodness that’s passed.  Although I still have my moments.

I wish I could say that I have a brand new life.  That I am a totally changed person. It’s not the case. I still have issues.  Things to deal with. Things to confront. Not drinking doesn’t make things magically disappear.  Drinking just makes it easier to ignore things- to numb them away. And hey, when you’re spending most of your day thinking about drinking in one form or another, there’s not a lot of time left for other stuff – well except for drunk thinking.  And that usually doesn’t have great consequences.

So, I just had my first (since I was a kid) sober vacation.  It was a good trip and a stimulating one.  Did some amazing things and ate great food. Never stumbled back to my hotel room. Actually, while I was surrounded by people drinking almost all the time, I never even really noticed anyone drunk. But I do find myself watching and keeping a tally of what people at other tables are drinking.

The other day we sat next to a table of 4 people at lunch. It was a pretty nice restaurant and being in Hong Kong the people next to us were Asian. Having a feast! At one point a platter of Roast Duck was brought to their table. It was beautiful and I know it was delicious.  I used to love duck prepared that way.  As a matter of fact, the first time I was in Asia and had it, I had 4 orders of it – that’s how much I loved it.  I pointed it out to my SO who said if I wanted it, order it.  But I quit eating meat and poultry over 5 years ago, mainly for ethical reasons.  And so, while I longed to eat that duck, I knew that in the end, I would regret it.  I would regret it for ethical reasons and I would probably feel ill as well due to the fact that my body isn’t used to eating like that anymore. More regret.  Of course in the end I was glad to have passed on it.

I think I’m in that place with alcohol. At times I almost long for it, but know that in the end I will totally regret it.  On so many levels.  Is that what life is? A constant weighing and balancing of things?   Maybe this is just a part of the process of learning to live in a different way.

4 months.  Seems like a long time.  Seems like no time.

 

 

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4 thoughts on “Longing and Regret

  1. I had kind of hoped that all other problems would be solved with the not drinking, but I forget just how awful I used to feel. My lower back used to ache, which I now believe must have been my liver. Not good. Really really not good.

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